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     Date:  01-23-91  22:45
     An Open Letter to Selena Fox
                                   by Isaac Bonewits
         
      Dear Selena:
      ...
      A few months ago I received a mailing from Circle in which you
      asked for (a) money to finish paying off the mortgage for the land
      Circle has been buying for many years, (b) suggestions for
      fund raising methods, and (c) "ideas and suggestions" as to how
      Circle should grow.
         
      I also read the mailings put out earlier this year by the
      "revolutionary" members of Circle, including the transcript of the
      meeting between them, yourself, and your lawyer. Confused,
      puzzled, and pained, I talked to you and to your supporters and
      opponents, including former workers at your headquarters. The more
      I learned, the more disturbed I became.
         
      Apparently, you are an intensely private person and have always
      resented people looking at what you consider your personal
      business. Yet my concern for Circle is not gossip, nor is it (as
      you put it to me) "sticking my nose where it doesn't belong."
      Circle is large, international, and has served a unique networking
      function in our community. If you don't know by now that what
      happens to you matters to us all, and that you have become a
      "public figure" in our community, then you've seriously
      underestimated your own importance.
         
      For many, many Neopagans, Circle was a doorway to the Goddess
      and to Her people. Our community would be considerably smaller, if
      it hadn't been for the work that Circle did for so many years.
      That you have been one of the most widely respected, loved, and
      trusted leaders in the Neopagan community, makes this letter
      especially painful to write.
         
      Circle was one of the first groups to buy land for Neopagan use.
      For years I championed your cause, both because I felt that land
      purchases were an inevitable evolutionary step for our community
      and because of the undeniably good work you had done as a
      networking organization. I recommended you to correspondents who
      wanted contacts and pointed you out as an example of a Neopagan
      group that had obtained real estate without getting corrupted.
         
      I no longer feel that I can support you or Circle, or advise
      others to do so. The change in my attitude has come about slowly,
      over a period of several years, with the recent events
      crystallizing my perceptions. Things add up...
         
      After years of correctly telling folks at gatherings not to take
      photographs of people without their permission, especially
      during rituals, you still run around during ceremonies (ignoring
      the spiritual energies being raised and focussed), or even at
      skyclad bonfire dances, snapping pictures for your slide
      collection and Circle Network News. Some of those slides have been
      shown to strangers all around the country, other photos were
      published in C.N.N. and even in non-Pagan publications -- at least
      some without the consent of the people depicted. This is only one
      example of an apparently pervasive attitude you seem to have that
      the rules you impose on others simply don't apply to yourself.



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      Other examples: After refusing to pay the expenses of other
      Neopagan teachers to attend and speak at Circle's well-financed
      events, you always demand red-carpet treatment for yourself and
      your husband to attend and present workshops at events held by
      others. Despite being constantly recommended by other Neopagan
      individuals and organizations, you seldom recommend any teacher or
      group other than yourself and Circle. After building the "Church
      of Circle Wicca" as one of the most famous Wiccan churches in the
      world, you unilaterally decided this year to drop "the W word" --
      a position I tend to support for the community at large, but one
      which seems to leave your thousands of Wiccan members without a
      voice. You then attempted to declare a copyright on the
      wide-spread concept of Nature mysticism.
         
      Circle has a reputation as an all-inclusive Neopagan networking
      organization, yet former Circle workers agree that, for at least
      five years, you discouraged them from giving networking contacts
      to inquirers, instead having them sell the Circle Guide to Pagan
      Groups and ads in C.N.N. Apparently this was originally because
      doing referrals took too much time out of the limited number of
      volunteer-hours you had available, yet you never announced to the
      community that you had stopped providing local Neopagan contacts,
      or what you had decided was a higher priority. Worse, after a loud
      argument with one of Circle's critics, you censored his
      organization's listings out of the 1990 Guide. Even if this was
      done with his consent (as one witness claims), it was grossly
      inappropriate for a reference work that many people believe to be
      a complete listing of Neopagan resources.
         
      You bought Circle Sanctuary with donations sent by thousands of
      Neopagans, originally claiming that it would be open and available
      for general use by the community, and then fenced it about with so
      many restrictions that it has become essentially your private
      property. A half-dozen ex-workers at Circle agreed that it was
      nearly impossible for ordinary Neopagans to visit "their"
      sanctuary for religious purposes without providing money and/or
      free labor to you at the same time. Amazingly enough, one couple 
      on the west coast claims that after donating over $5,000 to Circle
      they were refused permission to visit the land because they had a
      small child with them!
         
      Circle's by-laws have never been published, so no one knows for
      sure who is or isn't a "member" of Circle for voting purposes, nor
      how your board of directors gets elected. You told me that there
      have been and are other members of your board of directors
      (besides yourself, your husband Dennis and your lawyer), but
      declined to give me the current names. Your opponents tell me that
      this "secret board of directors" is a story you've told for years,
      but I was able to verify the names of two people who have been
      directors in the past. Apparently your policy is simply to have
      the board consist of you, your spouse (first Jim and now Dennis)
      and one other person -- a handy way to make sure that you retain
      majority control.



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      There are also legitimate questions about the enormous sums of
      money that have flowed through your hands over the years. I have
      been informed, by extremely reliable sources, that you have used
      one of Circle's checking accounts as a personal one, that normal
      financial books don't exist and never have, that Dennis' education
      has been paid for in large part out of Circle's general funds, and
      that he forbid workers at your headquarters to open the mail
      because they had been asking questions about incoming bank
      statements. Further, Dennis has been quoted mentioning a secret
      fund that would provide for your personal survival, should Circle
      ever fold.
         
      When I brought some of these allegations up to you in our
      conversation, you denied a few of them directly and evaded
      responding to others. As an investigative journalist and a
      concerned member of the Neopagan community, I have no way of
      knowing how many of these very serious accusations against you may
      be true -- but without published financial reports, neither does
      anybody else! Hundreds of thousands of dollars have been donated
      to Circle over the years, yet no one seems to know where it has
      all gone, and you're not saying. You told me that neither federal
      nor Wisconsin law requires you to file or publish financial
      reports. Yet hadn't it ever occurred to you that sooner or later
      the people who had been giving you all that money would want to
      know what you had done with it -- and that they would have a moral
      right to know?
         
      When the broken-hearted people who thought they were members of
      Circle tried to confront you over these issues of power and
      accountability, your response was to bring in a lawyer who reacted
      to all criticism and questioning with threatened lawsuits. At
      that meeting you danced around the issues that people brought up,
      never giving a straight answer to any question. Instead you
      focused on your anger towards those who had used Circle's mailing
      list to share their fears and concerns. Your comments on all of
      this in Circle Network News omitted most of the serious criticism
      that had been laid against you and Circle, and implied that
      nothing negative was happening. Your phone conversation with me
      consisted of a few direct denials, dozens of evasions, efforts to
      pump me for my sources, and repeated threats of unspecified
      legal and other troubles for me and my organization (Ar nDraiocht
      Fein: A Druid Fellowship, Inc. -- "ADF") if I persisted in my
      plans to publish the results of my investigation.

      This behavior is not what we expect from a world-famous Neopagan
      organization run by someone many consider to be a Neopagan
      saint. What has gone wrong? I am inevitably reminded of the
      scandals surrounding the P.T.L. organization and the fact that no
      Christian leader was willing to criticize the Bakkers until after
      the media exposed them. The scandal almost destroyed the entire
      field of televangelism. That might seem good to Neopagans, but
      now the shoes are on our feet.
      



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      Now it's one of our leaders who seems to be behaving in an
      unethical and irresponsible manner. What should we do, Selena?
      Should we all be silent and pretend that nothing is wrong, while
      we hope for your problems to go away by themselves? Should we wait
      until Circle blows up in our faces, strengthening the biases of
      those who are opposed to the very idea of large public Neopagan
      churches? Should we wait until you are investigated by hostile
      outside forces, making it infinitely harder for other Neopagans to
      get fair treatment -- and no doubt leading to yet another
      fund-raising campaign to protect you from "anti-Pagan
      persecution"? Most importantly, would such inaction on our part
      benefit the community or the Earth?
         
      I'm not saying that ADF and I are perfect in regard to all these
      issues. ADF's finances were confused for several years, first
      because I was paying out of my own pocket for most of our expenses
      (and seldom kept receipts), and later because our bookkeeper was
      an inexperienced volunteer (now we have a professional accountant
      on the Board). We have not always delivered on time the products
      or publications that we promised our members. But, by the Gods,
      when we have made mistakes, we have admitted it. We publish our
      by-laws so that all our members know the rules to our game, we
      print financial statements to let our members know how their money
      is spent, and we make available the minutes from our Board
      meetings so everyone will know how and why decisions are made.
      When our members have offered legitimate complaints about how we
      have handled things, we have listened carefully and then tried to
      respond appropriately.
         
      I will admit to some envy of you and Circle. When I think of all
      the good that might have been accomplished by ADF (or by any of a
      dozen other public Neopagan churches) if we had one-half of
      your income, I get both sad and angry. I've spent my entire adult
      life, as have other Neopagan leaders, living far below the
      economic level that my skills could earn me, surviving on an
      income less than that of most members of the Neopagan community --
      just so I could devote myself to the work I believe the Gods want
      me to do. It infuriates me to see enough money flowing into Circle
      to staff three Neopagan churches with full-time clergy, vanishing
      into fairyland without a trace. Of course it's obvious, to
      everyone who knows you, that you and Dennis are not living
      luxuriously. This makes the vanishing money all the more
      puzzling.
         
      I realize that you are not going to appreciate my criticism and
      that I am now on your enemies list for the rest of my life. It
      doesn't matter. I would be betraying both the Earth Mother and my
      own principles if I didn't speak out before matters get even
      worse.

      You have publicly asked for suggestions as to how Circle should
      grow. You've said that you want to put the past behind you and
      concentrate, as always, on "positive energies." OK, here are some
      positive steps you and Circle could take:
         
      Start by admitting, in your own publications, so that all your
      followers will hear you, that Circle has made some serious
      mistakes and that you are a fallible human being.
         
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      members of Circle are, and what voting rights, if any, they may
      have.
         
      Put several more people on your Board of Directors and publish
      their names, and let us all know how and why they got there. They
      don't all have to be in your local area -- telephone conference
      calls work just fine for Board meetings.
         
      If you haven't already done so, open a separate personal
      checking account for yourself and your husband. Have someone other
      than you or Dennis write the checks for Circle. If you've both
      taken vows of poverty to the church, and are therefore entitled to
      be supported by it, say so. Hire a full-time bookkeeper (you can
      afford the wages), and publish quarterly financial reports. Hire a
      C.P.A. to run an inventory on all Circle's property and publish
      the results. Publish the details on all the land payments you have
      made and how much is still owed.
         
      Design, publish and implement a training system for your clergy
      so that someone other than you and Dennis can be leaders someday.
      Make sure that you both genuinely qualify under the training
      system standards yourselves.
         
      If you're going to continue to present Circle as a networking
      organization, put all your names and addresses into a database,
      add confidentiality safe- guards as requested, update the list
      frequently, and share this data with those who write in and
      request it. Otherwise you should announce to the community that
      you aren't doing referrals anymore, and why.
         
      Publish a detailed explanation of your policies for controlling
      access to the Circle Sanctuary so that people who have donated
      money will know under what circumstances they may use the land
      they have paid for.
         
      Except for the last point, these are all things that we in ADF
      have done or are now trying to do. Many other Neopagan groups have
      done some of them. They are normal for most mainstream churches,
      large and small. Your local Unitarian Universalist congregation
      can probably give you advice on the details. Or you could ask the
      folks at any of a dozen other large Neopagan groups, most of whom
      have been doing these sorts of things for years.

      When I talked to you on the phone, you said that you were
      planning on publishing by-laws and financial reports, and making
      other major changes, before the end of the year. You said that
      turning 40 (as I did last year) and other brushes with mortality
      had turned your thoughts towards setting up Circle to run without
      you. Yet I find it hard to believe that you will take the
      necessary steps without the glare of a community spotlight being
      focussed on you -- hence this open letter. If you can prove me
      wrong and make all the organizational changes that are necessary
      to turn Circle into something we can all be proud of again, I will
      be delighted.
         
      Perhaps more important than these organizational steps, you
      might consider taking a sabbatical for a year or two, and turning
      Circle over to someone you still trust. You need to get back in
      touch with your roots, with the ideals that brought you to
      Neopaganism in the first place.



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      But don't expect people in the Neopagan community to continue
      sending you hundreds of thousands of dollars until you have proven
      beyond a reasonable doubt that Circle is open, honest, democratic,
      and financially responsible.
         
      May the Gods bless, heal, and inspire you.
         
                                                                      
         --Isaac
         
      A PS to my fellow Neopagans:
         
      I'm sure that the preceding opinions have shocked and offended
      many of you, especially those of you who love Selena. It is only
      after much meditation and pain that I have decided to publish this
      letter as widely as possible in the Neopagan community. We need to
      discuss the issues in depth, both to help heal Circle and to
      prevent such trouble from happening again to other groups. Perhaps
      we need to develop a detailed code of ethics for running the
      increasing number of public Neopagan churches. Perhaps we need a
      fair and practical listing of what sort of behavior we expect from
      our leaders    -- as part of a "Neopagan Common Law."
         
      I hope that you will meditate upon the issues and discuss them
      with your friends. Ask the leaders of any large Neopagan group you
      may belong to whether they have taken steps similar to those I
      have suggested to Selena. Then write to the publication in which
      you read this. Send a copy of your thoughts to Selena at Circle,
      P.O. Box 219, Mt. Horeb, WI 53572. Send another copy to me at P.O.
      Box 9420, Newark, DE 19714, marked "Circle Controversy." The
      editor of The Druids' Progress has agreed to publish a fair
      representation of the responses in the next issue of D.P., along
      with any reply that Selena may care to make.
         
      Please don't respond to this open letter by criticizing me or
      ADF. As I have admitted many times in the past, I have feet of
      clay going up to my waist, have a gigantic ego, and have made many
      mistakes in running ADF and other Neopagan organizations over the
      years. My virtues or vices are not relevant to the situation at
      Circle, nor is my rudeness in pointing matters out in public that
      many would prefer to keep private.

      Circle's current problems represent an inevitable growth stage,
      not just for itself and Selena, but for the community as a whole.
      As our population soars, we are faced with important questions
      about power, accountability, and ethics. Whether or not Selena is
      willing to honestly and openly address the issues, it's about time
      that the rest of us started thrashing them out. Perhaps after
      discussing this with your friends, you may want to make some
      changes in your own groups. Indeed, the situation at Circle has
      already sparked some major policy revisions and new by-laws for
      ADF and other Neopagan churches as well.  I'm definitely not
      saying that Neopagans should stop giving money to our growing
      number of public Neopagan churches. After all, large scale acti-
      vities do require large scale resources. What I am suggesting is
      that we boycott groups who ask for large donations (or small ones
      constantly), until we see their by-laws, financial reports, and
      minutes of their board meetings. This is the simple sort of common
      sense that any consumer advocate would advise. If we're going to
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      group, let's make sure that it's being run in a publicly
      accessible, honest, and responsible manner. Otherwise, we're no
      wiser than the folks who kept the Bakkers in business for so
      long.
         
      Let's all pay careful attention to Selena's response to this
      open letter. Will she send out a mass mailing telling her
      followers that everything is fine and to "think positive"? Will
      she try to sue me for daring to voice concerns held by many? Will
      she publish negative gossip about me (there's plenty available) in
      an attempt to discredit my criticism and avoid answering my
      questions? Will she simply ignore this letter, knowing that the
      vast majority of her support comes from new members of the
      community who will not have read it? Or will she deal forthrightly
      with the issues involved and open Circle up to democratic
      participation by its members? Only time will tell.
         
      On a personal note, I'd like to ask the members of the Neopagan
      community to stop expecting our leaders, national or local, to be
      infallible, impeccable, infinitely strong, Neopagan saints.
      Almost all of us come from dysfunctional families, are survivors
      of various forms of abuse, and/or have had problems with
      addiction, obsession, or eating disorders. We are all subject to
      depression and professional burnout. This is the same profile
      shared by clergy in other religions and people in other helping
      professions. As leaders, we need your love, your understanding,
      and your support (financial, emotional, and spiritual). We also
      need your compassionate and thoughtful criticism to warn us when
      we start to go off the deep end. Hubris, the overwhelming pride
      that offends the Gods, can be caused by uncritical followers as
      easily as by our own egos, with disastrous results for our whole
      community.
         
      As Selena has shown us.
      *******************************************************************
      This open letter and PS are (c) 1990 by Isaac Bonewits, and were
      first published in The Druids' Progress #7 (Fall '90). The
      opinions expressed are those of the author only and do not
      necessarily represent those of ADF, Inc., nor of any other
      organization. Permission to reprint is hereby granted to all
      Neopagan media, including electronic BBS's, if no editing is done
      and this notice is included.



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