Star Date: March 2009
Thailand, Kuala Lumpur, Hawaii
Hello Dear Family & Friends!
Sawadee!
(Good day -Thai)
Traditional Thai dancer (kohn) wearing an exquisite hand made costume and long brass fingernails.
“Change. Having anyone else as the focus of our attention will prevent us from doing the work that is ours to do. It’s so easy to sit in judgment of others, silently or sometimes even audibly criticizing them for their actions, telling them how they should change. Their behavior need not challenge me. Every person alive has a specific journey. No one is in my life by chance…”(“It’s Up to You”)
The Kingdom of Siam. This exotic country, now Thailand, brings visions of kings and queens in court, “Anna and the King”, Royal Palaces, golden Buddhas, saffron clad monks praying in elaborate Wats or temples, grand river barges, breathtaking scenery; colorful orchids, butterflies, and wild tigers. Beaches, islands, mountains, cosmopolitan cities and rustic villages full of tribes people, Thailand has it all.
A long time tourist destination with good infrastructure, this country of over 70 million is a highlight on many itineraries. Thailand isn’t a place for ‘first contact’ experiences but is certainly an easy place to get around. Bordered by Myanmar (Burma), Malaysia, Cambodia and Laos, up until recently it was a preferred place to stop by for a free visa. Thailand is weathering the seas of change as political tension flares up over corrupt officials. They made international news in December and again this April with demonstrators of two opposing factions, the yellow shirts and the red shirts calling for “Democracy not Dictatorship”. All has settled down again now and life is back to normal. One of the first things you notice arriving from the airport in Bangkok is how nationalistic the Thais are and how much the people still love their King. Large golden framed photos of the King, surrounded by a flashy light displays line the major thoroughfares of the city. The Monarch celebrated his 80th birthday last year amid great celebrations, fireworks and an unbelievable light display for miles along Bangkok’s boulevards. Although the royal family has had their dark periods, the King and Queen have remained politically favorable with international governments, allowing rapid development compared to their neighbors, and an impressive literacy rate of close to 95%.
Almost all Thais are Buddhist. There is a Wat or temple on every corner and the bright saffron robes of monks are a common sight wherever you go. One requirement of Theravada Buddhism is that every male under the age of 20 must spend 3 months minimum giving up all the creature comforts of this prospering society. Turning in their computer games for a robe and a bowl, they are taught the basic Darma and required to beg, door to door, for donations to keep the many temples alive. It is an experience that these young men never forget and sometimes they are spurred on to spend more time in the Wats studying, learning English, chanting, meditating and working. They are always welcome to return to the monastery and some girls even choose to spend time as nuns.
Kidnapped from Hawaii, my spunky 84 year old Mother, recently joined us exploring the sights of Bangkok and later relaxing for 3 weeks along a remote beach in southern Trang Province. A good optimistic attitude keeps us young and we only hope we can still be so positive at her age. Rather than complaining she still is interested in learning and seeing new things and remembers how to have fun. Only 6 months following a full hip replacement she is still “Gami on the go” and an inspiration to all.
‘Cowboy’ monks busily painting the Wats fence.
Oh please, just one more piece of sugarcane!
Out on the town. Off for a relaxing dinner alongthe river at Bangkok’s landmark 5 star Orchid Hotel.
Bangkok is one of the world’s cities that never sleeps. A smorgasbord of excitement on any given night, a visitor is able to attend the theatre, watch traditional Thai dancing (kohn), see a latest release movie in a cinema with 25 screens or a seven story high 3-D IMAX movie, listen to a classical concert or a contemporary pop band, take in a bloody Thai kick boxing match (muay thai), or just roam the side streets watching the bustle of the backstreet alleys. As Joseph scoured the southern beaches for the right place to spend our R & R time, Gami & I ‘did Bangkok’. Strolling through the back markets of Soi Rambutri district we had fun buying tasty food, light weight blouses and even silk lotus blossoms in the outside stalls.
Staying at the Villa Cha Cha, an excellent boutique hotel with pool, we spent time relaxing by the water and eating amid the tropical courtyard and extensive display of statues and artsy relics. Both of us spend a lot of time cooking for others and we were determined to have someone present us with a flavorful plate of food, and do the dishes. We were on vacation. We got dressed up and treated each other to sunset dining at the Oriental Hotel. One of Bangkok’s oldest and finest establishments, this 5 star hotel is filled with memories of days gone by. The Author’s Lounge is where the likes of Jack London, Hemingway, Mark Twain and others have gathered through the years. Tropical gardens filled with orchids, fine dining and live classical music in the lobby are highlights of this elegant place along the river.
The Mao Phraya River is full of all kinds of water taxis and long engine boats hauling people and goods up and down, as if it were a highway. Wats or temples line the banks, reminding us of times when people used the river, before all the roads were built. Joseph remembers visiting with his Mom in the early 60’s when Bangkok was mostly ‘klongs’ or waterways and called the Venice of Asia. Elephants roamed the streets and the trees were full of monkeys and clouds of bright blue and red butterflies.
One evening we went to Silom Thai Village to see the traditional Thai dancers (kohn) in their beautiful hand made costumes. We enjoyed a 4 course tasty Thai dinner while watching the show. We stopped at a silk shop and hand made soap sculpting exhibit while in the village. There was silk of every texture and color of the rainbow.
Let’s face it, we go to Thailand to eat. It is a vegan’s dream as all 5 tastes added to each dish, (salty, sweet, bitter, savory, and hot) explode in flavor, tantalizing your taste buds with every bite. Vegetables are common and many Thais are vegetarians abstaining from meat. Others become vegetarian during special Buddhist holidays. Roadside stands or garden restaurants all offer this tasty food and we looked forward to eating the best mouth watering food in Thailand, at Mr. Yim’s stand on Soi Rambutri alley. This quiet little fellow with a gentle smile uses only fresh, first rate vegetables and his vegetarian dishes are each a whopping $1 per plate. We flew south to Trang and settled into our place at the Seaside Resort in Pak Meng Village. Located on the Andaman Sea we just relaxed, read, wrote memoirs, visited, walked and painted for almost 3 weeks. Our rooms were located between a river full of fish and tropical birds and the white sand beach. Every night after cooking dinner we would walk out to the sea and watch the sunset. There were at least a dozens islands, or limestone mogotes, along the shore. These spectacular mountains rising out of the sea are not only beautiful but protected the area from flooding during the 2004 tsunami wave that claimed thousands of lives up north.
Happy monks of all ages.
Our ‘limo’ for the evening. This character takes tourists for a musical ride to remember along our alley and Khao San Rd.
Hmong tribeswomen from the northern mountains sell their handicrafts in the city. They are famous for their appliqué hats, silver jewelry and wooden frogs. Crick, crick.
We watched the 3-D IMAX movie, “Wild Oceans”, on Siam Paragon’s 7 story high screen. Featuring the east coast of Africa we were all excited about our upcoming adventures there. (Travel gods willing).
We could tell the time of the day by the birds. Early morning was a riot of singing. Myna birds, beautiful green and yellow parrots, large red kingfishers waiting to dive for breakfast, all joined in the chorus. Next came the fishermen in their noisy boats heading out to sea for a day of fishing. When they returned with their catch it was time for the evening bird songs, with frogs, crickets and cicadas to chime in. There was always something to watch. One afternoon while sitting by the river we were visited by 4 big otters frolicking in the water. Pak Meng had a colorful market with all kinds of fruits and vegetables. We bought fresh watermelons, papaya, bananas, pineapples and oranges for breakfast every day and mountains of fresh vegetables from the farmers to whip up a flavorful meal on the family’s one burner propane stove, washing the dishes off by hose.
One of the ancient great Thai kings said: “As long as we have fish in the water and rice in the fields we will thrive”. Life is good and thriving in rural southern Thailand. Spending time here allowed us to experience the slow pace of life in this varied country far from the tourist circuit and to feel the warm hospitality of these friendly folk.
I learned a new word when back in Hawaii, visiting my dear family and friends: ‘chillaxing.’ A combination of chilling and relaxing, I tried to put it into practice during our 3 week annual reunion and beyond. By nature full of energy, a goal of mine has always been to slow down. Daily meditation helps and the slow pace of the lovely, balmy islands of Hawaii did the trick. With my Mom flying in from the snow banks of Wisconsin and son Kevin already escaping the winter in Colorado, we converged on daughter Mariah and son-in-law Shane’s tropical spacious home tucked back in Aina Hina Valley. The ‘kids’ were busy as usual and in charge of the schedule so Mom & Grandma just hung out, cooked appetizing vegan meals, and baked Gami bread and cookies. We also met Kev after surfing in Waikiki or fishing at Chinaman’s Hat Park, hiked up to Makapu’u Lighthouse and Mariner’s Ridge for spectacular views, or spent the day checking out the waves up at the North Shore. Our annual tradition of drinks under the banyan tree while watching hula dancers at sunset, in the magical courtyard of the Sheraton Moana in Waikiki, was fun as usual as friends joined us to celebrate our get together. We spent time with several friends from Oahu, the Big Island and even the mainland as frosting on the cake added to this already wonderful get together. Joseph stayed in Thailand and Malaysia sending his “Aloha” and letting me recharge my family and friend battery. Thanks for such a good time..
Back in Bangkok, it was a trip down memory lane for Joseph. We stayed with Richard and his gracious wife, Wiman in their stylish 27th floor apartment, overlooking the bright lights of the city. Richard is an expert on sapphires and both he and Wiman are fellow gemologists. It was a 3 day dialogue full of past and present reminiscences of the international gem business, while exchanging ideas on book collecting and world affairs. Richard’s ‘muddle along theory’ was fun. No matter how bad the state of the world is, mankind seems to overcome the obstacles and muddle along. So true. From the love of gems, to book collecting, to memories of business, they had so much in common. Richard and Wiman are in the process of updating their impressive book on rubies and sapphires, and Joseph, himself a world renowned gemologist, retired now for over 20 years, has just finished updating his book, “Gills Historical Index on Gems and Jewelry Online”. During his career in Boston, Beverly Hills with Sotheby’s, and finally his own business in San Francisco, Joseph was an expert on gems and antique jewelry and dealt with kings and royal families, movie stars, and the rich and famous people worldwide. With pieces valued in the millions there wasn’t much room for mistakes. He remembers buying the 68 carat diamond from Liz Taylor and later seeing it hanging on Imelda Marco’s bedroom wall. He saw Princess Diana’s blue Kashmir sapphire wedding ring before she did and spent a week with the Shah of Iran and his family on Paradise Island in the Bahamas appraising the family jewels. The Rockefellers, the Duponts, the Rothschilds. John Wayne, Barbara Streisand, Cher, Dustin Hoffman, Woody Allen, George Lucas, Jack Lord, Salvador Dali, to name a few, were all his clients. Gone are the days of staying in 5 star hotels and dining with the elite but his observation of how these few wealthy people control the planet simply by their vast monetary empires has influenced his world views to this day. For an entertaining overview of the gem industry from one of the best: click here. You can also read or download a free copy of Joseph’s 500 page updated book, “Gill’s Historical Index To Gems And Jewelry Online”, hot off the press. (or click on the link listed under our photo on our homepage).
We always enjoy a few extra days in Kuala Lumpur while making a connection on Air Asia. Staying in Chinatown we explored the streets and shops of KL, ate at our favorite “Buddha Food” buffet and downed ‘masala dosas’ in Little India, fondly remembering our recent year in India.
The best laid plans of mice and men………………. God was definitely laughing at this one. After almost 6 years of traveling we were ready. We were so prepared that we amazed ourselves. Maybe we were too organized and it was time for our spontaneity button to be reset. Cheap tickets on Air Asia prepared 2 months in advance. Connecting flight from Trichy to Columbo all set. A few days enjoying Kuala Lumpur, a night at Air Asia’s new airport hotel, money exchanged, health items and organic food stocked up, heavy items stashed in our carry-ons; nothing stopping us from exploring Sri Lanka for one month. Next stop Columbo.
When checking in at 5:45 am we stood with jaws dropped as we were refused boarding because “Air Asia is a point to point airlines and does not have a room to hold passengers in transit.” We thought the international airport in Tamil Nadu would be responsible for a transit lounge but not the case. We needed to apply for a transit visa at the Indian Embassy, $60 and taking 7-10 days. The flight leaves in one hour. That could be a problem. We walked in circles for a minute or so then Joseph looked for the manager. After expressing his condolences to us, Joseph asked him to help us figure a solution. Using Sri Lanka as a springboard towards Africa we had luckily checked on prices and knew that we could also get a discount ticket directly to Madagascar from Bangkok. Using his position to make an exception, the manager traded our Indian tickets in for a flight back to Bangkok. Two hours later there we were, heads still spinning, caught in an anomaly that spit us out in Bangkok. Let’s see – this is Sunday – this must be Sri Lanka – no, this is Bangkok. Deciding to make use of our new free 30 day visa in Thailand we headed for our ‘alley away from home’, Soi Rambutri. More Thai food, no hardship on our part. After a tasty lunch of coconut curry vegetables, pad thai noodles, Tom Kha soup and spring rolls we started the process of finding the cheapest flight to Madagascar. Paying for a flight and getting our 3 month ‘Mad’ visa left us open to enjoy more time in Thailand. Visas, with their ever changing requirements are a thorn in the side of modern day travelers, and money in the pocket of each respective country. It’s just an inconvenience and a fact of life on the road. Getting a travel agency with ‘pull’ will help you secure the visa for the length of time you desire (long stays need extra payola), often for only a $5 fee. Sure beats trudging to the embassy yourself, waiting in lines, returning a week later, etc. Be good to yourself.
Fine dining in Bangkok.
The majestic Petrona Towers in Kuala Lumpur.
Touring the sky bridge between the towers is a real cultural experience. We were joined by these Malaysian school girls and visitors from all over the world.
Who does your hair? Babies from China and Bangladesh having a good look at each other.
We also chatted with visitors from Dubai,
Botswana, Australia and Peru.
Stopping by our local, friendly efficient neighborhood travel agency (which had been there for over a year) to pick up our e- tickets, we were instead greeted by a large padlock on the door. The crooks had skipped town and scammed over 100 tourists both here and in Phukhet. We couldn’t believe our ears as Kenya Airlines proclaimed, your ticket hasn’t been paid for. The police just said “Sorry. You are number 27 today”. Stunned we wandered around, stomped, cussed, and even planned to pack it in, but eventually accepted our $1000 was gone. If only we had paid by credit card we would have recovered the money. Usually we do use plastic for tickets and large items even if there is an extra 5% charge, but next time for sure. Adding insult to injury our reservation was cancelled and no other seats available. We scoped out our options and finally after checking daily, I found 2 seats on the internet. The next day we walked to the Kenyan Air office to pay by Credit Card!!, in person. A hard lesson for getting careless. Here we go again, the plan is set, arrangements finalized, but knowing that the ‘Travel Gods’ and their primary laws of traveling: living in the moment, spontaneity, and flexibility will win out in the end. They did.
Remember the movie “Groundhogs Day”, where he wakes up at 6am on the same day over and over, until he gets it right? Well there we were in room #512 of our guesthouse on Soi Rambutri staring at the ceiling at 1am, laughing and asking ourselves, “What are we doing back here? Deja Vu all over again.” We had left here once, saying our goodbyes to fly to Sri Lanka, and ended back here The second time we left, saying goodbye again, to go out to Ko Samet for 5 days then flying to Madagascar. Arriving at the Kenya Air counter we were greeted with the news that the plane “wasn’t coming tonight”. We will leave in 12 hours, but your connection on to Madagascar isn’t for 2 days. You could stay in Nairobi, Kenya for 2 days but the visa costs $100. Compensated for travel costs, we picked up the phone and called our guesthouse and even though they are closed and cranky after 9pm they held a room. O.K., we can take a joke but enough is enough. We are living in the moment and ‘patiently’ staying open to change, but we wonder when/if we will get to Madagascar? As I write this we haven’t a clue how things will turn out. But do we ever in life? No more goodbyes from here, we are sneaking out the side door! Check out next month’s page to find out ‘the rest of the story’.
Lucky enough to be in Bangkok for the Chinese New Year we were treated to Chinese Acrobats at the Siam Discovery Center and one of the best performances to date along Khao San Road – 3 elephants dressed in red and gold, break-dancing. The smallest actually laid down and spun around, as the crowd went wild. What fun! Songkran Festival, there’s not a dry eye in the house or anything else for that matter. Hailing from India, this Sanskrit word means passing of the sun, moon and planets into a new zodiacal period. Thailand spends the week around their New Year splashing each other, trying to forget about the intense heat and humidity in this pre- monsoon season. Traditionally it’s a time for offerings, ceremonies at the Wat and respecting elders by sprinkling water on them or lightly painting them with the soft chalk powder or ‘din saw phong’, on the cheek for good luck. These soft and gentle practices have given way to a ‘water war of the worlds’. A flashy poster shows a face-off between elephants spraying water and Thais throwing bucketfuls back. Picture yourself caught in the DMZ zone between those two groups and that is what awaits you if you decide to try walking around Khao San area or Silom Road during this week. It was NUTS! Cooling but crazy. Put all your money in plastic and just head out knowing that you will be soaked within 30 seconds. Upside is that you are finally cooled off, downside you can’t go anywhere with your bags or camera without being drenched. After the 2nd day enough was enough and a serene, quiet beach, as we had ‘planned’ sounded much better.
We also met a gifted musician, Bill, who has been living in Thailand for 10 years and went out to his hideaway on an island in the Mao Phraya River, enjoying a look at village life and enjoying his music and drumming. Bangkok with all the excitement, noise and confusion suddenly closed in on us and we were getting ‘nudgy’. Delays beyond our control because of stolen tickets and closed offices for the holidays, had kept us there. We had one nerve left and everyone was getting on it. Time to go. With only 6 days remaining we decided to escape to the closest island, the National Park of Ko Samet to regain our center. The ‘near’ proximity to hot Bangkok makes certain beaches on this T shaped island very busy, as Thais fleeing the heat and humidity come down for a look. Joseph had read about a secluded crescent of sand, with a small eco friendly family and their guesthouse. After an arduous trek from the pier we arrived to have our little piece of heaven awaiting us – a rustic cabin nestled in the shady trees right on the white sand beach, turquoise waves lapping at our veranda. Specializing in vegetarian food we decided to pay the holiday price and just relaxed into the gift that fate had unfolded for us. Once you are there, there is no where else you need to go.
And so it goes…………………………………..Next month we start unraveling the deep, dark mysteries of the unknown in Africa. Madagascar, is our first stop (we think), a wild island off the east coast of this vast continent, where the ever changing, exotic flora and fauna exist nowhere else on earth. Change. Let these quotes on change cause us to pause a moment and see how our actions speak. Trying to change others is futile. So much needs doing on this troubled planet of ours yet true change comes from within, radiating to those around us. Change is possible. Know this and be part of the solution. Keep Open! Keep Changing!
Take care!
The family enjoying Hawaiian music at sunset on Oahu.
(Family friend Abby, Gami, Nancy, Kevin, Mariah & Shane)
What a way to celebrate your 26th birthday! Surfing then diner at
Dukes in Waikiki.
Snorkeling while watching whales breach and sea turtles feed.
This was Kevin’s winter ‘job’ in Hawaii.
Where do you think they got the idea for Baywatch??
We made it! From our hike up to the top of Mariner’s Ridge. What a view!